I got to talk to my sis Marci on Saturday, which was her birthday! We talked for almost 2 hours... I have been telling everyone that it's like we have known each other our whole lives and haven't skipped a day. She is very easy to talk too, and I was only a little bit nervous.
The weird thing is that though we lived on opposite ends of the country, we had very similar childhoods. It's disturbing actually.
While I was talking to my sis, and told her about some of the things our mother had said that she had said, Marci told me that after our mother left California ( when she met Marci), she didn't speak to her again. I suddenly remembered the egg donor mentioning that Marci's mom had written her at least once and that was around the time she was telling me that Marci had said some horrible stuff about me. She also accused me of saying horrible stuff to Marci.
It sounds like to me that we were both sabotaged by our mothers. But why? Probably jealousy, and the need to be in control- they both have issues with being control freaks.
My brother Ben asked me if knowing all of that made me angry because our mother was to blame for the 10 years Marci and I missed out on. Sure, I'm a bit pissed about it, but I told Ben that it doesn't even come close to the joy that I have in me right now. I'm just smiling like an idiot when I think of Ben and I reconnecting with Marci, and I am looking forward to the day that the 3 of us can meet and visit.
Ben, Marci and I are a bunch of goofs, we all like to have fun and cut up, so when we do meet it's going to be a face and stomach hurting couple of days... from laughing so much. I can't wait.
I really do feel like that part of me that was missing is now whole. I just wished that we all lived closer. :)